Are you aware of subtle signals in your environment?
A. Yes that is true, I experience that I notice many more subtle
signals that others do not pick up so quickly. Because of this I have been stimulated earlier
and often feel uncomfortable.
B. No, I do not experience that.
C. I experience that I pick up much more subtle signals compared
to other people around me. However, I can handle this quite well. It is not so much a burden for
me. It can even bring benefits that I use in that moment.
How do you deal with atmospheres, moods and emotions of other people?
A. I suffer from that. I feel good about moods and moods of other
people and that can easily influence my own inner atmosphere and mood. I can then feel as if I
'empty'.
B. Ambiances and moods of other people do not appeal to me at
first, unless the other person actually tells them about them. I am not affected by it. I can
just feel good when other people do not feel well. That is not to say that I do not
sympathize.
C. It is true that atmospheres and moods are simply felt by me.
Previously, it could have influenced me negatively, but nowadays I can generally deal with this.
I can consciously notice the spheres and moods and let them be there in that moment. I
consciously stay with myself so that it all takes place more outside of myself. I have little or
no problems with it.
How sensitive are you to pain and how do you deal with it?
A. I even notice the small aches and pains in my body and that
also has an easy influence on my mood. I notice that everyone has pains, but that I seem to be
complaining about that more than others do. Others also make comments that I am more sensitive
to pain.
B. I notice pain, but the somewhat smaller aches shift to the
background when I am busy with the daily activities. It does not bother me for the most part. I
do not suspect that I am more sensitive to this than the average other person. It also does not
affect my mood so much.
C. I also notice the little aches and pains in my body. I can let
that pain be there, but I will not let it affect my mood. That means that I continue with my
daily activities, that I perceive and localize the pain, but that my attention is not so much
focused on it. I take the signals seriously, but I can choose not to suffer
systematically.
Do you notice a need during busy days to retreat to your bed or a dark room or another place where
you can be undisturbed alone? Without you then yourself away from the rest of the world?
A. Indeed. Such busy days take a lot of energy and then I become
so overwhelmed that I need room for myself to recover and come to myself. No incentives of any
kind around me.
B. Busy days everyone has once but I do not get overly excited
about it. If I then get tired a bit then that is just over again after a night's sleep.
C. Of course I have busy days. During those days I regularly take
a break for myself which does me good. I choose to stay aware of myself during my activities and
I keep in touch with them while I do my things. I know how I can prevent the overstimulation and
therefore I do not have to withdraw so much anymore. I may be a bit tired but that is restored
after a night's sleep.
Do you generally easily get overwhelmed by incentives such as bright light, strong smells, coarse
tissues or specific sounds?
A. I recognize that. Such incentives come easily, directly and
hard
to me and I feel that clearly because it overrides me. For example, in busy times I sometimes
feel that I can not keep up with my attention and it can make me feel dizzy. It makes me tired
and tense.
B. I have virtually no or no problems with that.
C. I notice these incentives very easily and it is sometimes easy
for
me to enter. However, I also note that there are few or no resistance to such situations in
myself and that I can stay mostly with myself. I am therefore not really tired or tense.
Do you think you have a rich and complex inner experience?
A. I think that is indeed true and that inner experience is often
so complex that I find it very difficult to deal with this.
B. Not that I know. In any case, I do not notice that it is more
than the average other.
C. I certainly recognize that. That inner experience, however,
yields me more than I experience loads of it. I can handle it reasonably well.
How do you feel in an environment with loud noises?
A. For the most part I do not feel at ease. I feel the sounds
coming in easily and I'm bothered by that. I can also easily get annoyed by it.
B. I just feel good. It does not really affect me in most
cases.
C. Hard sounds come in easily with me and I can feel that too.
However, I can generally handle it well. I keep my attention to myself in those moments, as if I
can stay in my own space. For example, I prevent irritations.
Do you notice that you are more startled than others?
A. Yes, I am scared quickly and violently. I find that very
difficult. When it happens I immediately feel a resistance and that too is annoying.
B. No, no more than average.
C. Yes, I can scare quickly and violently. It just belongs to me.
I have accepted that and feel no resistance in those moments. Secondly, if I stay with myself
during the day, scaring seems to come in less harshly.
Do you get a rushed feeling if you have to do a lot in a short period of time?
A. I do get a feeling of agitation there and that gives me
tensions because I am very busy to finish everything as well as possible. It can make me tired.
B. No, I usually do not let myself rush so much. I can not do more
than my best.
C. Yes, if I do not watch out, I can feel chased in those moments.
However, I recognize these feelings on time and do things as much as possible in relaxation, but
can still work well. I can also indicate what I want and where my limits lie so that generally a
rushed feeling is avoided.
Do you easily get annoyed when people try to let you do many things at the same time?
A. That certainly irritates me and I find that difficult. It
affects my work and my overall mood.
B. No, I do not allow others to do so in the vast majority of
situations. I only have two hands right?
C. It indeed feels uncomfortable for me when others do. That
could irritate me. I now know where my feelings are in that moment and because I also know what
I want and what I do not want, I consciously indicate this in time. In this way I prevent an
uncomfortable feeling for myself which could affect my general mood.
Are you doing your best not to make mistakes and / or forget things?
A. That's right, I do my best because I find it very annoying
when I make a mistake or forget something. When it happens, I feel insecure and disappointed.
B. No, I generally do not do that in general. You learn from
mistakes and who makes no mistakes? Anyone can forget something so I sometimes agree.
C. Making mistakes or forgetting things is something I would
rather avoid and therefore I am as attentive as possible in the things that I do. If I forget
something or make a mistake, it is a shame, but I can learn from that too. It is not that I am
disrupted. I do not do my best to prevent mistakes or not to forget something, but I am alert
and I can therefore respond well to the situations in that particular moment.
Do you prefer to avoid violent films or TV shows?
A. I avoid that because such incentives easily come to me and
that
burden remains long dormant. It affects my mood. I can sometimes find it difficult to fall
asleep and possibly dream about it.
B. I am not so concerned with the violence itself. It is just a
film and a film may be exciting or scary, otherwise it will quickly become dull. I like action.
C. Such films are in principle not my preference. When I look at
it, however, I can let it go and it does not affect me so much because I automatically keep some
distance between the film and my inner presence.
How do you feel when there is a lot around you?
A. When there is a lot around me, I often feel uncomfortable and
I can concentrate worse. I can feel that I can not keep up with it. I'm bothered by that.
B. I usually feel good actually. It is fine for me if there is a
lot going on around me and I can go with the flow.
C. If there is a lot going on around me, I stay conscious and
with myself. As if I then experience a kind of peace or quiet in myself in those moments. I then
stay more in my own presence and then I have little or no trouble with the things around me. I
keep my own safe base.
Are your mood and concentration strongly influenced when you feel hungry?
A. Yes, I certainly suffer from it. I can concentrate very hard
and my mood suffers.
B. In general, I do not suffer from it.
C. I can certainly suffer from that, only I am so aware that I
can easily prevent this by listening to my body signals. I then eat some food at those first
signals even though others do not at that time.
Do changes in life easily out of balance?
A. Yes, I do not like changes and certainly not if they happen
very suddenly. It does not feel good and my thinking creates considerable tension and that
brings me more than I would wish for other people.
B. No, I can handle it pretty well in most cases. I was mostly
easy with the wind.
C. I notice that changes in my life can affect me quickly. My
thinking can easily create doom scenarios. Even though it does not feel good at all, I can stay
in the here-and-now and myself. I look at what then comes to me in terms of situations to deal
with it as well as possible without thinking always taking the upper hand.
Is it very important for you to avoid situations that make you upset or overloaded?
A. Yes. I do my best to prevent these situations. I can not
handle it properly. It takes me a lot of time to recover and I do not function properly anymore.
Worrying and grinding are often the logical consequence.
B. I'm not really working on that. In general I can have
something so avoid is not something that keeps me busy. I have reasonable to much energy and
being overloaded does not happen often.
C. If I do not watch out, situations can upset me or overload me.
I know my limits and I can indicate that to prevent overload. If situations upset me, I take a
moment to think about it. To feel and find peace in myself again and that helps to deal with it.
Imagine, for example, you are looked at by other people at work. Do you become so nervous and tense
that your performance is much less than normal?
A. Yes that's right. It makes me very restless and that
influences my concentration. I can not keep my attention to what I am doing and it makes me
insecure.
B. If they look at my fingers then that does not really matter.
They can also give me good advice?
C. I feel that it certainly could affect me, but I stay
consciously with myself and therefore I can continue to focus my attention on my own work. I
therefore perform no less than normal and I trust myself.
Were you as a child seen as shy by your parents and teachers?
A. Yes, they said that. I saw and felt that I was much
quieter and inward, and nowadays I notice that regularly. I find that I find that annoying and I
do not know how to behave in companies.
B. No, they have not said that and I know that I am not shy
either.
C. I was told that indeed. I was quieter than the rest and turned
more into myself. Nowadays I see that it is not so much an embarrassment, but that I am a very
social person. It only depends on the situation in which I am moving.
Can you plan good business and structure in your activities?
A. I have a real problem with that. I explain a lot of things and
certainly the difficult things. I can sometimes no longer see the forest through the trees and
do not really enjoy my free time because I feel like an undercurrent that so much needs to be
done. My planning and structure can be chaos with times and that affects my system.
B. I can make good plans and structure. Of course, everyone can
postpone something but I have almost no problem with it.
C. I certainly have the tendency to postpone things that I find
annoying, for example, but because I plan sufficient time for myself, I avoid a lot of
procrastination and that gives me more rest. I do need that conscious choice for free time for
myself.
Do you have trouble expressing your own opinions?
A. Yes, in discussions or disagreements I find it usually
difficult to express my truths. Especially when the situation is being loaded. I can then feel
small or even 'disappear from myself'. Also in general situations I find it difficult to give
the right words to what I feel inside. I am often concerned with what others will think about
it. Often I say nothing and that feels uncomfortable.
B. No, I can make my truths clear in almost all situations. I do
not care how the other person reacts to it. It is just my truth and I think it can be expressed.
C. In general situations I can usually tell my truths because I
know that it is my own experience and my personal opinion. My truth is not better or worse, but
can easily differ from other people's opinions. In discussions or situations I stay consciously
with myself and I look at how I want to respond the best from my feeling at that moment. I do
not shy away from such situations, but a relaxed atmosphere is my first preference.
Do you recognize the feeling that you want to care for the other person so that the person feels
good or is relieved in activities by your help?
A. Yes. I quickly help the other person even though it is not
always explicitly requested by the other person. A peaceful situation is also good for me and I
am committed to that. Frankly, I also hope that others will find me okay in who I am. I can
sometimes forget myself because of the help I offer. I regularly put myself in second
place.
B. I do not have the inner idea that I often have to help others
from myself. Of course I will help if asked, especially if they are my friends. The overall
feeling of wanting to take care is not predominant.
C. Yes, it is an overall feeling of inner love for people and
animals that I feel without having to get anything in return or to be accepted. I do not forget
myself because that love can also be there for myself. It comes from my deepest self and the
expression of it goes without saying any intentions. It is not so much a behavior but a direct
expression of who I really am.
Will you fall in love quickly?
A. I notice that I fall in love faster than the average person.
When I have a relationship that is very difficult and confusing for me. Sometimes it
looks like I'm just looking for it while I do not really want it. This burden and confusion
gives me a lot of doubt and tensions in myself. I can handle it difficult.
B. I do not generally recognize that. Everyone can fall in love,
but you have to be wise about that. Especially if you have a relationship. I then make the
choice not to pay attention to it.
C. I recognize that I can fall in love faster than the average
other. I see that somewhere as an experience of a stimulus that is then experienced from the
outside world. If I have a nice relationship and I fall in love, then I feel that there is a
desire in me that I can give inner attention to find in myself what I might miss. As if being in
love is an incentive that should give me a good feeling because life would otherwise seem
boring. Becoming aware of that gives me insights and I am silent about my own desires.
Are you interested in spiritual topics, meaning, life questions or awareness?
A. That certainly has my interest. I recognize my own truths in
these movements and that is fine. Especially in a society that is generally not involved in
this. I see how things could be done differently with humanity and society. The annoying thing
is that I can thereby irritate society in life and that I want to share my views with others so
that they too can experience it that way. If that fails, I can frustrate that. The world can be
different and I am committed to that. I can also delve into this subject in such a way that I
can lose contact with daily reality.
B. I am not very concerned about that. It can be interesting but
it can also quickly become woolly. You have to stay on the ground with both feet. I am more
concerned with the daily events because that has more interest.
C. Spirituality and related topics mean for me a form of
self-examination and a voluntary attitude to life. I see that society is generally not
interested in that, but that is also part of life. I live my own way of life and like to talk
about it with like-minded people or with people who are interested. I can and only want to be
myself and discover my own inner freedom. I notice that this changes my own vision about
society. That gives peace and joy.
Are you often thinking about how other people can think about you?
A. Yes, I am very busy with that. I hope that others will like me
and will accept me and I can do my best for that. Such thoughts also quickly make me insecure.
B. No, I'm mostly not involved.
C. I have gained more and more confidence in myself and I am not
(anymore) doing so. I can be curious about other people's ideas but it is not that others should
like me because I'm uncertain. I am myself, I know my own truths from my feeling. How others
think about me does not bring me so much out of balance.
How does your body respond to situations with above-average stress?
A. I easily get tired of fatigue, general tension, stomach pain,
headaches, troubled intestines, tickling nerves or a generally uncomfortable feeling. I can
hardly deal with stressful situations so that I regularly face these burdens.
B. I can have something. Generally speaking, I do not get
physical complaints through such situations very quickly.
C. I notice that my body is sensitive to stress quickly and
reacts to it. I can then suffer from fatigue, general tension, stomach pain, headaches, troubled
intestines, tickling nerves or a generally uncomfortable feeling. It is, however, that I
intervene in time and find peace in myself by, for example, doing certain exercises that I have
learned. This way I can often prevent such complaints.
Are you someone who can inspire and motivate other people?
A. That's right. I am visionary and see different possibilities
at an early stage where I notice that others do not yet see it. I can lose contact with myself
because of my great enthusiasm, which is a disadvantage for myself.
B. I find that I do not really feel the need to inspire or
motivate others. I am rather someone who goes with the flow and that I like to give my own
activities all the attention. Others may be more suitable to be able to inspire or motivate and
that is fine for me.
C. I am indeed visionary and see various possibilities at an
early stage where I notice that others do not yet see it. I am happy to put these qualities into
practice without losing contact with myself. I know my limits.
What does not sleep with you enough?
A. If I can not sleep, I get annoyed at night by looking at the
clock. My body responds to it the next day. That can already be felt when I have not slept well
one night. I can not then concentrate well and I suffer from mood swings. I do not function well
and I have negative thoughts and emotions more quickly than the average other.
B. If I sleep badly that night, that has little to no effect on
me. It should of course not last a week. In general, I just function properly with little sleep.
C. I can certainly be sensitive to that. If I can not sleep,
however, I can relax myself so that I can rest. I am not so busy with time. Because I am more
conscious during the day and therefore less sensitive to the negative incentives, I seem to build
up a kind of buffer with which I can perform well the next day. If I do not sleep well for a few
days, I can of course only feel that I accept the situation more than that I am fighting or
accusing myself.
Do you find yourself a perfectionist?
A. Yes. In many things I find myself sometimes overly
perfectionist. I recognize a kind of fear of making mistakes. I also follow the requested rules
to prevent disapproval and comment from other people. I want everything too well, too deep and
too perfect.
B. I am not actually a perfectionist. I do things as well as
possible and then it is good. I am mostly quite satisfied and it does not always have to be
better for me as it goes.
C. I am perfectly perfectionist. Not so much because I am afraid
to make mistakes, but because I foresee how good, beautiful or useful something can be. If I can
then achieve that gives me a nice feeling and it gives me peace because I keep the overview. If
there are situations against it, then I can deal with it well and I respond to that in a relaxed
manner. The advantage I see in this is that I am a careful person who can work accurately. This
carefulness is a desirable addition for me.
Can you indicate your own limits?
A. No, I have difficulty with that. I have the feeling that
others can easily walk over me. Saying no to the other person and thus saying yes to myself is
difficult. I am afraid that I will hurt others or that they will find me unkind. The result is
that I often do things that I do not really want and that gives an overall unpleasant feeling.
B. I can usually set my limits and indicate what I want or do not
want. I am largely clear about this, regardless of what someone else will think about it. That
does not really matter to me.
C. I must continue to monitor my limits. I see that I can also
say yes to myself. I do not feel that I hurt others when I say yes to myself but that it also
has to do with the expectations of the other person. I think I can choose for myself. If they
find me unkind because that is a shame. However, I know that indicating my limits is important
for my functioning and balance.
Someone is not comfortable in his skin or has visible problems. How do you deal with that?
A. I go through and / or immediately feel that something is
happening in the other, even if it is denied by the other person. I then live in, feel what the
other person feels and want to make sure that it disappears by helping the other person. These
can also be unknowns. I can hardly deal with seeing emotional pain, for example. The pain of the
other sometimes feels like my own pain and that can be a big burden. It can cost a lot of energy
for me. I do not know how to deal with this.
B. I notice that I do not so much notice or sense what is
happening to the other person. If they say that nothing is wrong, then I accept that fairly
easily. If there is something to play, then I will definitely be ready for friendships. It is
good to support the other person in finding a good guidance form, for example, so that the
person can be helped professionally. I find it annoying for that other person, but I see clearly
that I am independent of it.
C. I go through and / or immediately feel that something is
happening in the other, even if it is denied by the other person. I do not live in because I
lose myself. I stay with myself, in my own presence so that I can listen well. I can clearly
distinguish which feelings are mine and which of the other are. It is precisely by being present
that I can be there for the other person. My experience is that someone else experiences it as
pleasant and that I can be an additional support.
How do you deal with your enthusiasm that you can have for different situations?
A. I can then go 120% for it and can lose my whole being. It may
even be that I do not know how to stop and continue to go through such situations or activities.
I do not know a brake. In retrospect, it takes me a lot of energy and I feel the adrenaline
flow. The danger of continuing to do so is the chance of getting overworked or even a burnout.
B. If I'm excited I can go for something because I really enjoy
doing it. I find 100% incidentally enough and I have the patience to continue with the
activities at another time. That is the most sensible thing.
C. I can then go 120% for it and can lose my whole being. It is
important for me to maintain the relaxation in the situations and activities, so do not be
rushed in those moments. Right then I will go into the fullest and I can enjoy it. Even though I
recognize the impulses to continue, I choose to take timely moments and stop early. I prevent
too much tension in this way.
What does the verb 'must' mean to you?
A. I notice that I have a big problem with that word. Especially
when others have to 'impose' me I perform worse. In my daily activities there are many moments
in which I have to deal with the 'must' and that can also be simple things. I can then feel a
great resistance and then do nothing at all. I find it difficult when there are so many
'must-activities'.
B. In life there are many things that have to happen. If you then
execute them, you will soon be rid of them again. I think that you have to bite through in those
situations and do not have to think about it too much. Even though it's not always fun. Then it
goes fine.
C. I notice that the weight of 'must' decreases for me when more
'may' appears in my life. I can decide that for myself. By creating sufficient time and space
for myself and finding peace and relaxation, things automatically go more automatically. The
'must' is then less in my feeling and therefore also the burden.
